tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7591434792413977641.post3994780669878033967..comments2024-01-14T19:42:33.050-06:00Comments on Some Girls Prefer Carnations: Cancer: The ultimate white elephantHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13784286198203025883noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7591434792413977641.post-48171047010209025052011-01-03T08:29:53.889-06:002011-01-03T08:29:53.889-06:00Beautiful Post, Heather!Beautiful Post, Heather!Marthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17752747705610092394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7591434792413977641.post-47010833102089393692010-12-29T23:19:28.527-06:002010-12-29T23:19:28.527-06:00Being the person holding the cancer is a tough job...Being the person holding the cancer is a tough job. (Duh) Not only do you have to deal with your own scary thoughts, but also you have to know that others are holding in their scary thoughts as well. I agree that one day you may look back and say, "wow, "that" was a surprising/interesting/positive thing that came from my cancer diagnosis and treatment." But I am guessing what "that" was will never be worth the cancer. I am all for positive thinking and trying to find the bright side, but hon, let's face it - this cancer sucks. If I had a magic wand, I would wave it and make your cancer disappear. If it was not strong enough to do that kind of magic, I would use my magic wand to extract the cancer from you and transfer it to me - not because I want to have cancer, but because it sucks so bad that you have it. Sometimes I try to think philosophically about all this, but there is no wisdom, no understanding, no faith tradition, no god, or no explanation that can ever put this in a perspective I can appreciate. What I am holding on to is being with you and Ian and the girls and hoping that showing up, all I have to offer right now, is helping you is some small way. You know . . .LoriLorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09840854228752115251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7591434792413977641.post-82420489155769425092010-12-28T23:18:17.667-06:002010-12-28T23:18:17.667-06:00Heather, I think it is totally reasonable for you ...Heather, I think it is totally reasonable for you to not be completely positive about this at all times. It does suck. It is totally unfair. You might like another perspective from a cancer survivor - the book "Bright-sided: How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking Has Undermined America" by Barbara Ehrenreich takes the perspective that cancer is not a gift and that you should be allowed to feel crappy about it when you need to. I much prefer your blog, personally. I think you are an emotional genius. MallaryPiperBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10453127042265460868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7591434792413977641.post-83989448400309384182010-12-28T19:16:15.319-06:002010-12-28T19:16:15.319-06:00Heather, I am a friend of Jennifer and Rich Early ...Heather, I am a friend of Jennifer and Rich Early and Martha's Godmother. I was diagnosed with breast cancer last February. Finished chemo in Sept and now doing Herceptin every 3 weeks until June- so guess I am kind of "on the other side." I have been following your blog-laughing and crying. I love your strength, wit and perspective on this all. This post was the best. I am thinking that this breast cancer is a white elephant gift for sure! You are in my prayers. Sue NielsenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7591434792413977641.post-47343901633723695152010-12-28T09:27:34.057-06:002010-12-28T09:27:34.057-06:00When you get to the survivor side...be sure to loo...When you get to the survivor side...be sure to look back on this post and reflect :)<br /><br />I think the Santa that visits your house must be from Boulder, CO! He would fit in great out here ;)Smithershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06713411953137659153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7591434792413977641.post-43814392824845462492010-12-28T02:29:31.398-06:002010-12-28T02:29:31.398-06:00If cancer couldn't be beaten, they'd call ...If cancer couldn't be beaten, they'd call it can't-cer. Lucky for you, you don't have can't-cer, but just regular ol' cancer. Imagine how hard it would be to beat a disease with a name as ominous as can't-cer...nearly impossible, I would imagine. <br /><br />And think of the nightmare that blogging a disease that contains an apostrophe and a hyphen would be? Worse then chemotherapy itself, we would have to assume.mapmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05823774922331933795noreply@blogger.com